Sunday, July 22, 2012

The arranged marriage to chennai!

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So in spite of my convenient resolution to write once a week, I failed to follow for last two weeks. Deep apologies! But you see guys, you always find reasons like super busyness in office and having guests over on the one sunday that you get. Whatever, here I am with this weeks post.
I read an aquaintance's blog some days ago, where she had written about arranged marriages. And it's not just to a person. It can be to a place,job,surrounding or anything whatsoever. I liked the conncept, and tried to evaluate it in my own context.
Pune, is and will always be my true love, from bottom of my heart. Going by Filmi concepts- it is that pyaar which happens only once-the true love.It is not as if the other person is faultless, but you do not base your decision on them. You love them in spite of it.

I spent a year and half in Mumbai, and that city to me is like a mad fling, done without thinking much about it. I started the relationship with hate, and soon it turned into love. rather than love, a passionate attraction about city. The zest, the people, the life and the speed of life attracted me, it still does.But I know I will not have that one and half year again in my life ever, and I am happy having some of the fondest memories of Mumbai.
I got married some seven months ago and I came to Chennai fifteen days later.Coming to Chennai was not my plan. Or rather, it was not decided from bottom of my heart. It was an arranged set up. It is like an arranged marriage. You are not in love with the person at first sight. You might also realize that the person has certain faults, and they are going to be there for life. But ultimately, that decision is taken from brain, coz you see that something is going to achieved through this. And well, who does not have faults?

Chennai to me is exactly like a husband from an arranged marriage. I got into it with an open mind, and hoping for the best. I am doing everything to fit into the relation, and still keeping my individuality intact. So I kept on reading about the city in general. I roamed around a lot,went through by lanes, started working here, had a routine set up, kept on talking to people, even learned their language. setting up a house and following a routine is a big part of stabilizing yourself in the city, and I have done it. Survived here through its horribly humid summer, and have got used to weather. I also got my car a week ago,started driving, and feeling more comfortable in the city now.
Like any arranged marriage, there are moments when you re-think about your decision, and there is always some time gone before both get comfortable to each other, have a steady relation and start building a mature relation. I think I have achieved the comfort now, I hope some day Chennai becomes friendly to me, and we start building our relation.
Of course, I keep on missing my true love a lot, but I have made my peace with my arranged set up, and well, I am in a happy space, to say the least! :)


Anniiket said...

Nice one.. All the best!!

ishani said...

sneha i really loved the way you have expressed yourself.... but dear in arrange marriage you get short courtship period, which is helpful as you get to know the person lil more. And adjustment and adaptation is there in any marriage. I agree with you going with open mind helps a lot. I am sure you will make lot of good memories in chennai :) you will get to see, live, n explore another culture :)
all the very best :)

vijigishu said...

An interesting concept.

Hrushi said...

Wow! Nice way to look at things ;)

Gari said...

Hey dear! It's always a delight to read your posts. When most of us are juggling personal and professional life, I congratulate you to find time for writing. Keep it up. You are doing such a fine job of it. And I so relate to your experience with Chennai.

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